Playing Catch Up...

So since my last post I spent 4 days in Pensacola and then a few days at home. The time in Pensacola was great. We literally just hung around and watched movies all day most of the time cuddling on the couch. We went out one night which was alright, nothing special (not that it needed to be). When he had to work I would do a little school work (finding out just how behind I am today was not a nice welcome back from spring break...). Realized we're definitely just friends. He's a great guy, but there are a lot of issues there besides distance and well, the feeling just isn't there. I will say that it was nice to sleep next to someone for a while. Just having someone to hold for a few days it was great. Then when I got home Friday my best friend from high school texted me and asked if I was in town because he was visiting from North Carolina. I haven't seen or heard from this kid in 6 months (not for lack of trying, he's just awful when it comes to communicating and he's working all the time). So what was supposed to be maybe a one nighter at home turned into a whole weekend. Well Friday night was quite honestly one of the worst experiences of my life. None of the guys I was hanging with know I'm gay, so it was literally just me standing there and playing straight while they continuously kept asking why I wasn't hooking up with one girl or another. Mind you I was also driving, so I wasn't drinking like the rest of them. It got a bit out of control at one point while we were out and I just found myself wondering what the hell to do. Every time I would think maybe I had an opening to at least tell my best friend he would complain that there are already too many Jewish gays and that it didn't make sense and how could you do it, etc, etc... Most awkward part of the night goes to the scene in the pizza parlor after the club where they decided not to put in our order until we asked where our pizza was since we had been waiting over a half hour. Well small talk turned into sex talk and I really just wanted to grab a knife and call it a night. I was so over it. Lately playing straight had begun to bother me, but in therapy I learned that my defense mechanism is to minimize my feelings. Well there was no minimizing that night. I was ready to snap on anyone that gave me the chance (like a wrong look or if you bump me wrong). I finally realized that suppressing who I am sucks. Plain and simple. Saturday night was actually a lot of fun. We had dinner at my friend's house with his whole family, just like back in the day. It was great, then his sisters, him, another old friend and I all went out again. This time (I think because the girls were there) there was no bullshit talk, no taunting it was just a nice time dancing near the bar and hanging out. I don't have all the answers, but I do think I am making progress. I'm actually really looking forward to group tomorrow. That's about it for now. More to come soon. Need to get through 2 tests friday, one of which I forgot about until I was reminded in class this morning about (which means all the reading I should have done over spring break is coming back to bite me in the ass). Oh well, I had fun and it was so beyond worth it.